Improving Your Relationship

Published: 15th June 2012
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Love is a powerful thing and is a kind of high that is unmatched when you experience it. The problem is that many relationships fizzle out after just a few months.

Perhaps you have your own common mark? do you find your average relationship with a guy lasting no more than 6 months before it's done? Well it's important to date lots of people until you can define the perfect person for you, but you want to make sure that both you and him are doing your parts to keep the relationship healthy, when you DO find that special someone.

Love should be unconditional, but forgetting that it's a coming together of two people can make us become selfish in a relationship, and that's not going to work either.

Relationships take work. Marriage may take even more work! This is why
divorce rates are through the roof. People aren't willing to work so hard at this any more. So listen up!

1. Work Together - Not Against

Choose your battles. We all have lots of things about the other person
that can irritate us, no matter how much we love them. However, you
need to pick the most important things that you need changed in a relationship, rather than constantly fighting over spilled juice.

Learning to appreciate and except the things that he does that aren't so great to you will make you a stronger and more "relationship relaxed" person, and it will grow you as an individual.

This goes for both you and him. All of these points, if he can't do these things, then he's probably not right for you.

But you should be working together on tasks. A guy shouldn't consider
anything to be "woman's work" and should help you if he can, because
it he were single and living on his own he would have to do those things anyway.

Work is work, you need to do it together.

2. After A While, Sweetness Can Take Effort

Sex, intimacy, love, the "small things", they all require work. They kind of fade away after a while. At first this person is so new that everything is exciting, and it's not hard. Pretty soon you learn just about everything you could know about each other, and it will either reinforce what you love about them or make them seem like yesterday's news.

You both should be doing small things for each other. It doesn't have
to be romantic or cost money. Any time a guy will take an hour to clean a room or do the dishes while you're away, is awesome and really
speaks to a woman's heart.

Any time a woman can record a game that he will miss, make him his
favorite meal when he's stressed, or try to buy him a shirt that's just like his favorite, even if it came from a thrift store.

Remember, it's all about showing that you STILL know who they are inside and still love each other for it.

3. You've Got To Date

What does the average 40 year, happy marriage have that the 3 year, miserable one not have?

They still act like kids. It can be hard when you do have children,
but that's even more reason to get a babysitter and have a date night.

As couples get more comfortable with each other, they can get lazy. They can start getting lax in their physical appearance, become excessively crude around each other and turn into hermits.

You have to go out and have little dates. You don't need any money. Remember that what you do on the first date isn't what brings two people together, it's the personal adventure that you go on.

"Remember that crazy waiter?"..."I'll never forget us trying to catch that movie, getting there too late, and we ended up seeing a better movie by accident"..."he tried to kiss me and then he tripped!"
..."it's true, and then I knew she was the one when she helped me up
and kissed me!"..

It takes work, but is well worth it and has momentum.

You've got to keep creating experiences/memories, and you need excuses for small adventures to do so. But if you are married and have kids, you need time for yourselves. You need personal time together. This will create a happy environment for your children as
well. When you are happy as a couple - they will feel it.

4. In The Bedroom

There are so many issues that can come out of sexuality, and luckily
there are a lot of fixes.

I'll say this! sex isn't just about the intercourse part. It's about the mood that you set. Guys really need to learn this! If the sex isn't lasting long enough, spending a half hour of "heavy petting" can
be the answer.

Should you try new things? conservatively raised couples may be uncomfortable trying new things or even talking about it, but when you've experienced new sensations and explored awkwardness together, then you can learn a lot more about how to please each other, and take away a lot of the anxiety of sex.

Plus, when it's all said and done, it's kind of like knowing 1 recipe to make for dinner every night, versus having a whole cookbook memorized.

You then have lots more sexual knowledge to draw from that can become quite spontaneous and exciting to keep your intimate life intact.

Next, you should check out the Girl Gets Ring program.





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