How To Get Him To Fall In Love With You

Published: 18th June 2012
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If you have your heart set on someone special, but really want to create a love within his own heart for you, you may have great success trying these things.

It's a funny topic. How to make a man fall in love with you. It sounds
so forceful, and yet if you are a woman who is just going crazy to get settled into a nice relationship, then you want to do this. Rather than teach you any non-ethical techniques or tricks (they won't work anyway), I would like to explain to you why men fall in love in the first place.

By knowing this information, you can appeal to his heart, make your
approach to a relationship stronger and create a really powerful bond
between that special guy who is in your life. So here's what you need
to know about how to make a man fall in love with you.

1a. His Mask

The first thing that you need to really understand is that men are
raised and bred with this idea of acting a certain way. Guys wear
a mask, and they rarely take it off. This alter ego is what they project to the outside world.

It has to be a character of strength, goal setting, determination and
a little mix of masculinity/macho-ism.

It can be a dog-eat-dog world where men size each other up, women size them up, and this is no different than how women might compare
themselves to each other.

As a result, if you are really special to him, then he will take off the mask and show to you his true self. This is a rare instance, and only possible if he feels that you are the one. His friends probably will never even see this side to him.

1b. Getting Him To Take Off The Mask

If a guy is capable of letting you get to know the real him, then this is very positive for you. It means that he really trusts you, but getting him to do this is what you need to learn how to do.

This is exactly how to make a man fall in love with you, without using
any manipulative tactics.

You will need to explore him, without stepping on any toes. You need
to ask him questions about his interests. More importantly, request
information about why he likes something, the decisions he makes
regarding a passion, how he approaches a problem.

Not only will this bring him closer (because he will feel that you are
genuinely interested in the real him), but it WILL help you learn
the real him.

In future scenarios you will be able to jump to the gate and address
his interests (the real him). Things like "this made me think of you"
or "I know how you enjoy this so much".

Quick Story

When I had my first date with the girl that I fell in love with, I was nervous as hell. I took her to a shopping mall, assuming that she would like to browse through clothing stores. That was me generalizing women I suppose, but I didn't know what would be a fun experience for her.

I had my mask on. Acting falsely confident, trying to be in charge, planning everything, etc.

She seemed uninterested and I was sweating. I was not having fun, because it wasn't what I wanted to do of course, but I was just trying to be pleasing to her.

She seemed a little bored.

I finally said "hey, want to get out of here?" and she said "Absolutely! this place is driving me crazy!".

My pre-planning went out the window, and I took off my mask.

There was the connection. I'm not fond of crowded places, and instantly she showed to me that she was on the same page.

My internal feeling was "this girl is relaxed, and I like that".

We ended up going to a nice little restaurant, and that was really fun, but what we did next was even better.

We went roaming around places like Walmart, Meijer's Kroger's, etc late at night when most people were gone.

We made fun of some of the things we saw, cracked jokes about people, talked about things that we found funny in our own lives, made references to pop culture, and learned from each other.

That's when I fell in love with her. We were doing boring things
technically, but it was an opportunity to come together and be one.

When I took her back to her car, I grabbed her in my arms and kissed her like I've never kissed any woman before. The rest, I am happy to say, is history :)

But the point illustrates the fact that I felt like she got me right away. I felt like we were one. This doesn't always happen on the first date, but you can see the importance of it.

Oh, and later when I got home...I called her. Something most guys never do in fear of seeming to eager, but she explained to me that she had spent the rest of that time just driving around, listening to music and super wound up from our date -- awesome!!

So if you want to know how to make a man fall in love with you, make sure that you connect in the little ways that are important to both of you.

The small things make magic.

Check out this guide to find out if he really loves you!

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